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Splitting Summary º 0 Bill Eddy ì 0 Review Review Splitting Protect Yourself from Manipulation False Accusations and Abuse Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances When your spouse has borderline personality disorder BPD narcissistic personality disorder NPD or is manipulative divorcing can be especially complicated While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges you know better many of these. No one is surprised than I am that I am giving this 4 stars I have been on a uest to read and rate as many books about personality disorders and DSM related diagnoses as possible Most of them are horrible because they lack empirical support to make the claims they all make While I am sure many authors truly want to help it seems they really offer no effective help at all I gave one star to Kreger s Eggshell book It had many flaws and not many clear and effective helpful solutions I was really surprised how different this book was I highly recommend this book to anyone going through a divorce Without uestion this book suffers from the same problems that plague most self help books that deal with personality disorders The narcissist or borderline could easily be the person who does x behavior or the opposite of x behavior Terms are not well defined or empirically supported However this book excels in identifying and isolating very specific behaviors of high conflict individuals If this book had replaced narcissists and borderlines with high conflict persons I might have given it 5 stars This book seems to provide excellent advice for anyone going through a divorce If both parties are reasonable they can learn from this book how to avoid being high conflict If one or both parties are high conflict individuals this book offers solid advice on steps to take to avoid making things harder on your kids and yourself I had a relatively easy divorce but have seen nasty divorces fairly often in life I can t help but think this book could have probably helped each person going through the high conflict divorce whether or not they are the person bringing the drama to the table The one thing I think authors find difficult is that you can never tell who is telling the truth These authors seem to be aware that this is a limitation and despite this they do the best they can to offer solid fair advice for couples to get through divorce and the following years

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Splitting Summary º 0 Bill Eddy ì 0 Review Review Splitting “persuasive blamers” leverage false accusations attempt to manipulate others launch verbal and physical attacks and do everything they can to get their way Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse Written by Bill Eddy a family lawyer therapist and divorce mediator and Randi Kreger coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking. Do yourself a favor and read this book Before the words Separation or Divorce are even spoken to a partner with a personality disorder This book is loaded with information that will give you a realistic idea what to expect out of a soon to be ex once a divorce has started If at any point in time you are tempted to think They wouldn t go that far or It couldn t possibly be that extreme let me tell you from personal experience that Yes they can and will go there and yes it can be that extreme So I will state it again this book will give you a Realistic look at what to expect out of a soon to be ex who has a personality disorderMake no mistake someone with a borderline or narcissistic personality disorder will go after you and they will do so with no empathy or concern for what their actions will do to you or your children if you have any or sometimes even themselves They will focus on winning and they will focus on hurting you for your betrayal of leaving them even if they initiated the divorceMy favorite point about this book is the emphasis of taking an assertive approach It can be tempting to respond to an aggressiveangry ex with an aggressiveangry response Do not do this Anything you say especially in text message email or voice mail can turn up in court and be used against you At the other end of the spectrum it can be tempting to give in and capitulate to demands to avoid conflict Don t do this either People with these disorders have a sense of entitlement if you simply give up on something you have a legal right to they will expect and demand that you give up in every other area of the divorce as wellTake a middle road be assertive This book will help explain how to do thatIf you will be getting a divorce from someone with a personality disorder this book is an excellent place to start getting some information And get yourself the best attorney you can find Hiring a great attorney really is the best thing you can do for yourself

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Splitting Summary º 0 Bill Eddy ì 0 Review Review Splitting On Eggshells this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced productive way Turn to this guide to help you Predict what your spouse may do or say in court Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking Choose a lawyer who understands your case Learn how e mails and social networking can be used against you. This book was given to me by a client The client felt this book was helpful to her in navigating her case with her husband whom she believes to be suffering from borderline narcissistic personality disorderSplitting is a term used to describe a defense mechanism universally seen in people with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality DisorderI definitely have a love hate relationship with this book Let me begin by being truthful with how long it took me to finish this book I got through the first half of the book pretty uickly and then I stalled for approximately six months maybe longer before finishing the book I was just having difficulty picking it up and getting through it towards the end The information was very helpful for a person going through a difficult divorce with someone they suspect as having personality disordersdefects The issue that I was having is that some of the legal based information was inaccurate and not in a procedural differences between jurisdictions kind of way Some of the basic information was inaccurate and misleading in my opinionThe book attempts to address the different types of evaluators that can get involved in a divorce case One such evaluator it discusses is an attorney for minor children Even this label is frustratingly inaccurate It leads the reader to believe that it is referring to an attorney representing the minor children What I think it is actually referring to is a guardian ad litem which is an attorney that represents the best interests of the minor children There is a very distinct difference between representing a minor child which reuires you to advocate for the position your client wants you to advocate for and representing the best interests of the minor children which reuires you to advocate for the position that you feel is in the child s best interests regardless of what the child wants If a parent wants the minor children to be represented by an attorney the only way to accomplish this in a private custody case is to hire an attorney to do so A Guardian Ad Litem is appointed by the Court and the Court makes an order about who will be responsible for payment of the GAL s fees which are usually divided eually by the parties The entire section on this seems to confuse the two roles There are a few other sections that are ambiguous or misleading which I feel might result in confusion on the part of the clientThe book is not all bad though It provides some great suggestions for how to deal with a high tension highly litigious opposing party One of the best points made by the authors is the fact that highly aggressive attorneys often don t win in the long run and that for negative advocate attorneys focus on their performance in court They put on a show for their client and as a result their client thinks they did a great job This is something I have been telling my clients for years I might add that the reason I know they are only putting on a show for their client is because often times attorneys go into chambers with the judge and discuss the issues before any hearing occurs The judge often tells the attorneys their point of view on the issue after all arguments have been made The attorneys and parties go on record thereafter but at that point it is only a procedural formality The attorneys already know how the judge will rule before the formal hearing occurs Any arguments made are only for the sake of the record and for the sake of the clientsAnother great resource and suggestion made is the open letter to family and friends in the back of the book The letter is provided as a suggested script of a letter that a person can send to their family and friends as they are going through the divorce process With some modifications this letter could be used for almost any type of divorce In a high tension and highly litigious divorce a letter like this is a great tool One of the best pieces of information in the letter is to as your friends and family not to take sides in the divorce By way of example it states while siding with me may give me a temporary feeling of satisfaction it is a form of all or nothing thinking that reinforces seeing one person as all bad and the other as all good So basically you are using the letter to ask your friends and family not to talk smack about your soon to be ex because that leads to deeper feelings of resentment and vindictiveness This is a great idea because those feelings usually already exist in abundance and do not need to be reinforcedOverall I give this book 3 stars


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    Bill Eddy ì 0 Review Free download Ï PDF, DOC, TXT or eBook ì Bill Eddy Review Splitting this book was recommended to me by a professional and it really made alot of sense when reading this book about narcissistic personalities or toxic relationships I would highly recommend this to anyone divorcing in similar situations because it's the way you respond to the situations that's important and this book makes s

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    Review Splitting [Splitting] Download  Bill Eddy No one is surprised than I am that I am giving this 4 stars I have been on a uest to read and rate as many books about personality disorders and DSM related diagnoses as possible Most of them are horrible because they lack empirical support to make the claims they all make While I am sure many authors truly want to help it seems they really offer no effective help at all I gave one star to Kreger's Eggshell book It had many flaws and not m

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    Free download Ï PDF, DOC, TXT or eBook ì Bill Eddy [Splitting] Download  Bill Eddy Interesting book but not targeted for information I was seeking I am going to begin reading Disarming the Narcissist soon which I understand is a much much better book for understanding how to relate and pull away in a healthy manner from a narcissist Let you know

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    [Splitting] Download  Bill Eddy Free download Ï PDF, DOC, TXT or eBook ì Bill Eddy Do yourself a favor and read this book Before the words Separation or Divorce are even spoken to a partner with a personality disorder This book is loaded with information that will give you a realistic idea what to expect out of a soon to b

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    Free download Ï PDF, DOC, TXT or eBook ì Bill Eddy Bill Eddy ì 0 Review Review Splitting Going through a divorce is one of the most destructive heart breaking and earth shattering processes that an individual can go through in his of her life It is a method of betrayal and deceit that takes the sanctity of marriage and shatters it into a million pieces In the process homes are destroyed children ar

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    [Splitting] Download  Bill Eddy The book has a lot of good insight especially a good read for those who are battling a PD that latched on to a rich SO and free lawyer It's helping me save a lot of lawyer hours by following the mantra of KEEP CALM and if you aren't already in the thick of it those hours add up uickly especially with someone with a PD involved It also reduces my needs to waste lawyer hours asking them uestions of what if this

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    Bill Eddy ì 0 Review [Splitting] Download  Bill Eddy I'm feeling split about this book I'm going to give it four stars because it is jammed full of useful information about how to handle a really sticky hard situations But it's really like 30 35 stars to be honest because there is so much that isn't here this book basically lays out what you need to do best case scenario to split from an abusiv

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    [Splitting] Download  Bill Eddy I hope no one I know ever needs to read this But I find it super helpful in navigating these uncertain waters keeping my side clean an

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    [Splitting] Download  Bill Eddy Review Splitting If you or someone you know is experiencing a high conflict divorce then this book is the bible to survival Is it a fun read that escapes you from reality? No It is likely the reality that you're living So why would you want to read

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  • Paperback
  • 292
  • Splitting
  • Bill Eddy
  • English
  • 11 January 2018
  • 9781608820252